Saturday, December 13, 2014

SEPTEMBER – DECEMBER 2014


There’s something about being 30 that’s so liberating. I feel like I can do, say, or write whatever I want without having to care so much about other people’s opinion of me because I’m old enough to know that they couldn’t harm me any more than I could harm my own self. It’s just that I’m old enough too, to know that I have a moral responsibility to express myself in socially acceptable ways, mainly to avoid problems. I have devised a plan to strike some sort of balance. I have decided to just be me -quirks and all- like it's the only option. I may apologize if I hurt someone unintentionally, but I will not allow anyone to impose his ideals on me. I will hold on to my beliefs, my dream, and my message. I will not compromise who I am for a more favorable public opinion... or conditional acceptance... or fleeting love.
If I had a British accent, I would NEVER. STOP. TALKING.

Sometimes, the best way to deal with some problems is to not deal with them.

Don't bend your morals for a person who doesn’t have any.
The longer the goodbye, the harder it is to let go.

There's nothing like working really hard to make your dreams come true.
There are some days when you remember being exhausted from morning duty but wake up at 4am and have absolutely no recollection whatsoever of how you got home from the hospital, or if you ate dinner, or if you took a shower, or brushed your teeth.

Life is a matter of perspective. We believe what we want to believe, mostly to survive.
It's helpful to look at loss like a 2-year-old. When something so important is taken away from you, focus on another good thing until it becomes the ONLY thing.

You can't expect others to accept you if you're not comfortable with yourself.

Rich girl. Poor guy. Suffering chooses no one.
But poor girl or rich guy, we can choose to celebrate
Rather than loathe abundance or poverty...
Or all other things that make us suffer.
For there is no such thing as suffering...
Only a lack of faith and gratitude.

The only thing that’s worse than being teased as “abnormal” is to be ignored for being so ordinary.

The kindest thing you could ever do for your soul is to forgive yourself for the things you’ve done that you’re not proud of. I have never heard of regret as a helpful tool for moving forward.

When you accept someone for who he is, you unburden yourself with the need to change him.

You never really know some people like you're never always certain about yourself.

God is good all the time. It's just that sometimes, our concept of good is different from His.

What you sow, you will reap. It’s the natural order of things.

I’m not complicated. I’m just not your brand of simplicity. ‪

No one is not good enough or too good for anyone. You are who you are for a reason and someday, somehow, someone is going to give you the love and appreciation you ought to be given for who you are.

Set a healthy boundary for yourself in terms of everything except faith.

At some point, you have to own who you are.

You can't be professional if you're being emotional.

Kahit anong gulo ng mundo, ang puso hindi nalilito.

Want to inflict maximum injury with minimal force? Just lie to someone whose trust you didn't have to earn.

Collect all the stones that life throws at you and turn them into gold.

Feelings are what they are. Whether they're right or wrong is just a matter of personal or public opinion.

Ask and you shall receive, so be careful what you wish for.

Sometimes, you actually win when you lose something.

Have you ever told yourself you’re done with something even when you’re not? First, find out why. Second, accept it. Third, know that you’re never done until you really are.

We really should live in the NOW. While you are busy preparing for the next big disaster of your life, you might fail to notice the one that's already in front of you, waiting to break you.

"I love being ignored." - said No One Ever

You will be surprised of how little you know about yourself until you've fallen in love.

All things work out for the best.

I love the things that love makes me write. Even when the feeling is gone, the words I've written remind me that I was once again blessed with a wonderful opportunity. I have loved.







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Friday, November 28, 2014

Life overseas: The lowdown for expats


 

-Don’t get me started on long-distance relationships.

-Trust… BIG word.

- Know what to unlearn and what to hold on to upon arrival and when you leave “for good”.

-You may be the mayor’s wife’s best friend’s sibling where you came from, but here you’re just an expat who has got to work your ass off … like the governor’s daughter in your department.

-Make sure your family knows how hard you work so they won’t take your remittances for granted. And tell your relatives who think you’re better off to shut the fuck up and just come over so they’ll know that working abroad is less awesome than they think.

-Domestic helpers invest in real estate back home. Professionals have tons of gadgets and credit card loans. This statement is based on lots of true stories.

-Groups of all sorts, overrated as they are, are popular. 

- Racial discrimination. Ethnocentricity. Religious bias. We’re all guilty of those. Move on.

-You are on your own. Your embassy cannot help you any more than you could help yourself.

-Know the rules. Follow them. If you break them, don’t get caught.






 

 
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BUCKET LIST UPDATE 2014

 
29 THINGS I WANT TO DO BEFORE I’M 30
1)      Go home for a vacation and meet Zach Christian- DONE
2)      Finish reading the Purpose Driven Life- DONE
3)      Finish reading the Bible- NOPE (1 Chronicles Chapter 6)
4)      Finish reading the Quran- DONE
5)      Write at least five short stories- 4 http://shortstoriesbyhencellauren.blogspot.com/
6)      Write at least five more songs- 2 (a couple more unfinished)
7)      Finish a novella- NOPE (only dozens of writing ideas)
8)      Finish editing my 2010 memoir- NOPE (for some reason, this could take years)
9)      Send one of my writings to a contest or a publishing company of some sort- NOPE
10)  Have 77 blog posts on SCRIBBLES- 71
11)  Create a new blog- DONE! about this blog
12)  Master writing my name HENCEL LAUREN in Arabic- learn YES, master NOPE
13)  Go to at least three Kuwait tourist destinations- Kuwait Towers only. If you count The Grand Avenues, well, malls don’t count so 1. I’m planning Scientific Center and Grand Mosque before the year ends. Yaaay!
14)  Visit another gulf country- DONE. Dubai UAE with my two besties, Selah and Victoria
15)  Memorize one foreign song- Havatum Em by Sirusho (Armenian) BUT it’s not in my vocal range so don’t make me sing it
16)  Learn a new language- NOPE. I’m a bad… language… person… period.
17)  Get my visa and leave for the US- Hello?! Ever heard of retrogression?
18)  Visit Tatay Asiong (Philippines) and Papa Lino’s (California) graves- Tatay YES, Papa NOT YET
19)  Learn how to swim- a teeny, tiny yes
20)  Go wall climbing once- NOPE. I’m afraid I’m getting a bit frail for these activities.
21)  Start “project” with Mom- maybe this “project” isn’t necessary (pleasant turn of events)
22)  Have my hair grow five inches past the bra line- YES. My hair length today is the longest it’s ever been my whole life.
23)  Invent a recipe I will name after my Mom and siblings- NOPE. I was planning on a recipe named “NiNIKnik na MA-NOK” but can’t decide what to put in it other than the friggin’ chicken.
24)  Have my tummy scar removed surgically- NOPE. Someday…
25)  Meet a famous person- NA-ah!
26)  Buy a pair of high heels and be an expert on walking around in it- Oh. Yeah. Really.
27)  Fix my posture- I’m hopeless.
28)  Fall in love again but… - OMg
29)  Stay single- I wouldn’t put this here if it isn’t highly likely to be the case after 12 months of foreseen nothing.
 
My year went well, thank you. And thank You God- always. J
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Wednesday, July 16, 2014

May – August 2014


 
Love overcomes fear.

If marriage were illegal, maybe more people will fight to stay married.

Saying NO may get you into trouble sometimes, but it often spares you from bigger problems.

One secret to being happy is don’t pretend when you’re not.

Eat, Pray, Love - Elizabeth Gilbert. Eat, Pray, Sleep - Hencel Lauren.

As a writer, you have to learn how to let go of some writing ideas and forgive yourself for it.

Lord, I will try to relax more. I have faith in You and Your divine plans. I love You.

Alamin ang kaibahan ng simpleng kilig sa tunay na pag-ibig.

Bad things happen to good people because of bad people who are up to no good.

If you want people to respect you, you must: a) respect others, and b) respect yourself.

Sometimes, when someone explains to me something I already know, I get confused. There really are different ways of understanding the same thing.

The most conceited thing to say is "Insecure lang siya sa'kin". No secure person would say that about another, no matter how true it may seem.

There are plenty of ways to love someone. Pick one that says, "This is beyond the best that I could offer and you're so worth it."

The sum of all your life's experiences is the person you are today. If you think you're awesome, then don't be so damn bitter.

Too often, the best things come from the most unpleasant circumstances. If you're feeling sad right now, prepare to experience the happiest day of your life. And thank God in advance.

Maybe a reason why we keep repeating the same mistakes is to prove that they are not mistakes. Maybe. Just maybe.

Telling someone to follow his heart is like giving him a pile of crap. Tell him HOW you intend to follow yours, your plans to survive the hurdles along the way, and that you won't stop or give up until you have fulfilled its desires.

Nursing is a noble profession in that a nurse is willing to risk deflating his ego for the more important things- like a (sick) patient's ego. F*<k those nurses who don't.

Life is filled with adversities but we're still here. So if you’re wondering where you got your heart’s strength, thank God you were born with it.

A small mind makes a big deal out of everything.

Do not make deals with the devil. She will give you a taste of heaven, then make your life a living hell.

Let your soul radiate across the universe and paint the skies with warm colors.

Anger is a blunt knife you aim at yourself.

Fasting without spiritual reflection will only result to hypoglycemia.

Smart people say what they think. Stupid people say whatever the hell they want. I am a woman. I am inherently smart. I say what I feel. And men...

The most dangerous of all battlefields is the human mind. It's where thoughts fire at each other nonstop with no hope of cease-fire.

God is love. Love is the driving force of the universe. The universe is God revealed.

Lord, thank you for giving me patience. Good things come to those who wait. Thanks for being with me through it all and for keeping me strong. I will not give up on my dreams. I will do whatever it takes to make them all come true.

Darating talaga ang panahon na pagtatawanan mo nalang ang mga naging problema mo. Minsan nga, kahit nasasaktan ka, hindi ka pa nakakaiyak e natatawa ka na. As ridiculous as life seems sometimes, there is a reason for every ordeal. Someday, somehow, it will all make sense.

People who don't know what they want end up with a million things they don't need.

Acceptance is not getting rid of unwanted negative feelings. It is being grateful, and hopeful, and trusting of God's love in spite of the pain you're dealing with.

I believe in God. I believe that He occupies every bit of this vastness, this infinity, and beyond. He will not fail me or forsake me because I am a part of Him. My story was etched in time long before I was conceived, every moment planned to perfection, just waiting to happen. Unlike Him, I am finite. But my short existence is nothing but meaningful, with purpose. There is no one like Him and there can only be one me. I am aware of His greatness. I am aware of His power. I am aware of His love. This awareness is what saves me, what pushes me, what gives me the strength and the will I need to move forward until my life, my story, is finished.

Take action in your life rather than let action come to you.

Lies are words with spikes in them. That's why you bleed when lied to, even without knowing it.

A lot of writers wanted to write to change the world. But man, I bet their passion for writing changed them first- big time. That's what's happening right HERE, right NOW, to THIS soul that’s inhabiting my fragile earth body.

Iba-iba talaga ang mga tao. Meron ung walang pakialam. Meron naman ung wagas kung magdamdam.

To fight for love, you don't always need a gun, or a knife, or a stake. Sometimes, fighting for love means just feeding the fire inside with wonderful memories and letting it warm your heart until it burns out... until the urge to fight for it is gone. Because there are more important things. Because you have to choose your battles wisely. Because a love that is worth fighting for needs two people to win.

If I will be given a chance to live again after this lifetime, I hope I bring with me this flair for words. I can be devoid of any other human talent but I cannot imagine not being able to express myself the best way I know how. I am a writer; unknown, but a writer nonetheless.
 
 
 
 
 
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Friday, June 27, 2014

A Love Letter





Dear YOU,


 
I LOVE YOU.


As humans, we are plagued by the complexities of this world. One of the many things that I find difficult to understand is that we get into more trouble saying “I LOVE YOU” than “I HATE YOU” and that the courage needed to express positive affirmation is equivalent to that of what’s required to jump off a moving train or dive into the ocean’s immeasurable depths. I wouldn’t just jump off from anywhere and I can’t fucking swim, but one thing scares me more than anything else: Regret. Love overcomes a lot of things but in my experience, fear can be the bigger bitch. I am afraid to NOT love. I’m afraid of unspoken words and things left undone. I am afraid of regret, the things it can do to me, and the things it can make me do.


I believe that we’re all born with a common purpose- to love each other. Love is the driving force of the universe. It is as infinite as the grace of God. There’s so much of love to go around forever; we can give it without restrictions- in the right ways. It is just a matter of choice. If we leave the courage to love bottled up inside us, we defeat our purpose. If we love only our family, our lovers, our friends, then we would have wasted our lives. My life is precious to me so I’ve made a choice. I choose to love someone for every second God gives me. I have chosen to love you. I have chosen this way to tell you to ease any kind of confusion.


So there. I love you. It is the truth that makes me brave.

I love you. It may not be exactly the kind of love that you hope to have or what you so need at this point in your life, but it’s what I have for you and I’m giving it for free- showing it in my own ways.

I love you even though we’ve only known each other for a little while.

I love you because of what you are, what you’re not, and what you want to be.

I love you because you make me smile.

I love you for the effort that you give to forge the kind of bond that we have.

I love you because your presence in my life for God’s reasons helps me understand a little bit of His grand plan.

I love you and I wish you all the best that life has to offer.

I love you and I want you to be happier than you’ve ever imagined you’d be.

I love you though I’m uncertain of the true meaning of love itself.


I love you because you are you.

You are wonderful.

All my love,
Hencel Lauren
June 27, 2014







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Saturday, May 3, 2014

January - April 2014


The word "hot" when used to describe a guy has little to do with his body temperature or his abs. Height doesn't seem to matter much and sure, an accent can take you places (not always all the way), but there are more important things to consider... like his heart. Choose wisely.

God is NOT in us; rather, we are IN God. I mean, imagine an elephant inside a flea, literally and figuratively speaking.

When you face a life-threatening situation, you don't think about how you've lived or worry for your loved ones. There are no flashbacks or what-ifs. You won't give a shit about your belongings, your unfinished businesses (and writing projects), or your unfulfilled dreams. The only thing that you'd be stressing about is how to pay the hospital bill.

Blessed are the ones who suffer in silence.

God gives us more than what we pray for- IN HIS TIME.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. At the end of the day when it’s just you in front of the mirror, you’ll realize that there’s only so much you can do as far as altering what can be seen versus self-acceptance.

We make life-changing decisions on a daily basis. If you want your life to change ASAP, don’t wait for tomorrow.

The truth is elusive to the foolish seeker.

God blesses our lives with the best people we could possibly need.

The people we love may disappoint us, but we don’t stop loving them.

Sometimes, we are surprised by our own wisdom and strength. It can only be from God.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Love who you are in spite of your imperfections.

Kindness is the best offense. Silence is the best defense.

The books you read can change your life- if you let them.

To a writer, credibility is everything.

To find true love, you must first learn how to truly love yourself.

It pays to take the higher road- promise.

I’d rather risk my life trying than live a long time waiting.

As you journey through life with the one you love, don’t block his trail or stupidly tag along. Walk side by side and hand in hand in facing life’s challenges. Enjoy all the good things as they come.

Lord, let Your plans fall through. Let my life speak for you.

Falling in love is like entering a maze. Getting in is easy. Finding your way out- not so much.

Are you Matthew Fox? 'Coz you look lost.

If you feel like you’re turning into someone you think you’re not, it may be that you haven’t really been yourself.

If pain can be seen rather than felt, people wouldn't be able to see beyond the misery I was wearing.

Someday, your worst mistake will turn out to be the best decision you've ever made.

 

 

 
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Monday, March 24, 2014

One Life, One Purpose


Before my 29th birthday, I wrote down three books that I want to read before I’m 30 and The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren is one of them. I’ve had copies of this around me for almost a decade but I haven’t gotten around to reading it until now. While there are a few things in the book that I disagree with, it is merely because my beliefs are different. Nevertheless, the book is so worth anyone’s time –Christian or not- because it is filled with encouraging words and empowering thoughts that can help you in many different ways. I highly recommend it, especially to those who are new to the Christian faith.

I love books that don’t only give me new things to think about, but make me look at some aspects of life in a different light and this book is high on my list. I copied some parts of it that made me go “Oh, Yeah!” to post here in my blog to share to all of you, but nothing beats reading the book by chapter and reflecting on what you’ve read for 40 days. However you understand God’s message through Pastor Rick Warren in writing this book, and whatever it is that you decide to do with what you have learned, there’s a reason for it. May you have a more meaningful life ahead of you whichever path you take- a life lived with a high sense of purpose.

v  You did not create yourself so you cannot tell yourself what you were created for.

v  You are not an accident. Your parents may not have planned you but God did.

v  God never makes mistakes.

v  Love is the essence of God’s character.

v  You discover your purpose if you make God your reference point.

v  We are products of the past but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.

v  Self-worth and net-worth are not the same.

v  You just have enough time to do God’s will.

v  Activity is not productivity.

v  Meaningless work, not overwork, wears us out.

v  The world will not devote itself to making you happy.

v  The closer you live to God, the smaller everything appears.

v  Thinking about death is not morbid; to live in denial of death is unhealthy.

v  Your perspective will influence your destiny.

v  To live for God’s glory is the only way to live.

v  Enjoy life, not endure it.

v  The secret to a lifestyle of worship is to do everything as if you were doing it for God.

v  If you reject yourself, you reject God’s wisdom in creating you.

v  Surrendering to God brings freedom, not bondage.

v  Desiring control brings stress.

v  Instead of trying harder, trust God more.

v  Praying without ceasing is conversing with God whatever you are doing.

v  Prayer lets you speak to God; meditation lets God speak to you.

v  You are as close to God as you choose to be.

v  Audacity is authenticity.

v  Pain is the fuel of passion; it moves us to change.

v  We can worship God imperfectly, but we can’t worship Him insincerely.

v  God intentionally made us all different; everyone isn’t expected to love Him in the same way.

v  The deepest level of worship is praising God in spite of pain.

v  Seek God, not an experience.

v  Don’t doubt in the dark what God told you in the light.

v  Familiarity breeds complacency.

v  Love cannot be learned in isolation. You have to be around imperfect people.

v  The time you give for it reveals something’s value.

v  You can give without loving but you cannot love without giving.

v  The best use of life is love. The best expression of love is time. The best time to love is now.

v  None of us can fulfill God’s purposes by ourselves.

v  We are called to love real, not ideal people, like God does.

v  Self-pity dries up sympathy for others.

v  Fellowship rubs out mistakes, not rub in.

v  Forgiveness is letting go of the past. Trust is rebuilt over time.

v  Speak the truth in love.

v  The tunnel of conflict is the passageway to intimacy.

v  Frankness is better than flattery.

v  When involved in a conflict, talk to God before talking to the person.

v  Relationships will go smoother if you pray more about them.

v  When resolving conflicts, delay deepens resentment. Focus on feelings, not facts; sympathy, and not solutions.

v  If you say something offensively, it will be received defensively.

v  Disagree without being disagreeable. Seek reconciliation, then resolution. (Strive for) unity, and not uniformity.

v  Focus on what we have in common, not our differences. We must enjoy our differences and not tolerate them.

v  Conflict is a sign that the focus has been shifted to less important issues.

v  Longing for the ideal while criticizing the real is evidence of immaturity. Settling for what is real without striving for what is ideal is complacency.

v  Disillusionment is a good thing because it destroys our false expectations of perfection.

v  Choose to encourage rather than criticize.

v  Do not judge others (with different convictions) because we will be judged not by each other’s standards or our own but God’s.

v  Your character is the sum of your habits.

v  Commitments can develop or destroy you but either way, they define you.

v  Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts. The way you think determines the way you feel and what you feel influences the way you act.

v  God has a purpose behind every problem and uses circumstances to develop your character; all are significant in God’s growth process for you.

v  You’ll never know that God is all you need until God is all you’ve got.

v  God brings out good out of the worst evil. Pain is temporary. Focus on God’s plan.

v  If we escape difficulties in life, we are delaying our growth. Don’t give up. Grow up!

v  There is real peace amidst chaos and confusion when we trust God.

v  Every temptation is an opportunity to do good. You can’t claim to be good until you’ve been tempted to be bad.

v  A little sin is like being a little pregnant- it will eventually show itself.

v  The Power of Suggestion- the more you think about something, the stronger it takes the hold of you.

v  It is easier to stay out of temptation than to get out of it.

v  Real maturity is never the result of a single experience, no matter how powerful or moving. Growth is gradual.

v  God is never in a hurry but he is always on time.

v  A delay is not a denial from God.

v  You may not be where you want to be but you’re not where you used to be.

v  We are blessed to be a blessing.

v  What matters is not the duration of your life but the donation of it.

v  Passion drives perfection.

v  Serve God in a way that expresses your heart. Do what you love to do, for His Glory.

v  Only you can be you. If you won’t make your contribution to the world, it won’t be made.

v  Your abilities are a strong indication of what God wants you to do in your life. He matches our calling with our capabilities.

v  People are more encouraged when we share about how God’s grace helped us in our weakness than when we brag about our strengths.

v  You will be more effective when you use your gifts and abilities in the area of your heart’s desire, in a way that expresses your personality and experiences.

v  It feels good to do what God made you to do.

v  God deserves your best.

v  Nobody is good at everything and no one is called to be everything. We have defined roles.

v  Don’t compare and conform. Do your own work well. Seek only God’s commendation.

v  We serve God by serving others. Greatness is measured through service, not status.

v  If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.

v  Imperfect service is better than the best intention.

v  Great opportunities often disguise themselves in small tasks.

v  There is a difference between prominence and significance. The hidden parts of the body are the most indispensable.

v  Insecure people always worry about how they appear to others.

v  God is never limited by our limitations.

v  Weaknesses cause us to depend on God and prevent arrogance.

v  Other people find healing in our wounds.

v  Vulnerability is emotionally liberating.

v  Decide whether you want to impress or influence people.

v  Credibility is more important than perfection. Be honest.

v  You are the authority of your life story and it’s hard to argue with personal experience.

v  Nobody can say it all so value each other’s life message.

v  Learn to love lost (and EGR- extra grace required) people the way God loves them.

v  God wants to say something to the world through you.

v  People are more receptive to God when they are under tension or transition.

v  Balanced people outlast everyone.

v  When you know what God wants you to do, the blessing comes in actually doing it.

v  Your roles and goals may change but your purpose doesn’t.

v  Worry is an indication that God is not at the center of your life. If God is your center, you will have peace.

v  Our lives must support and validate the message we communicate.

v  Do the eternal and timeless (Lord’s purpose) in a contemporary and timely way (in your generation). God created you for your time.

v  The rest of your life can be the best of your life if you start living on purpose today.
 
 
                                                              
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 
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